Open the Blinds, Let Others into Your Life
- Cancer & Caregiving
- June 15, 2015
I was home sick for a few days recently, which gave me lots of time to contemplate everything under the sun.
My mom stopped by on the first day and exclaimed what a nice sunny day it was outside. I ignored the comment.
On the second day, as I lay on the bed, I looked at my nice curtains and blinds covering the window. I have never opened either, or the ones in the living room and dining room.
I consider it a waste of time to open the curtains during the day and close them at night. I also don’t want nosey neighbors. And in Florida, it’s a waste of money to let the hot sunlight inside while the air conditioning is on.
But soon, my thoughts shone light on the larger questions here: Do I keep the ‘blinds’ closed on my life all the time, too? What’s so bad about a little bit of sunshine? Do I consider it a waste of time to let others into my life?
A few months ago, a male friend said I put up high walls to keep people out. His comment stuck with me. Perhaps you’re like me — building tall walls and keeping large sections of your life blocked from others.
Or maybe you’re a caregiver, and you think no one wants to hear about your struggles or your pain.
Perhaps you’ve been hurt by people and relationships for so long that it just seems safer.
Whatever your reason, it may be time to pull back the shades and open the blinds. I suspect that a little sunshine — and a little quality time with friends — may be just what you and I both need.
I think I will start opening the blinds a bit and sliding the curtains half-way open in my house and in my life.
Maybe I will call a friend I haven’t talked to in a while. I also plan on getting together with friends, even if I feel like closing the blinds and going to bed early instead.
But for now, I think I’ll go sit by the pool and soak up some much-needed sunshine.
I hope you open yourself up to some sunshine, too. We all need it.
Jennifer Mia has been writing and editing for more than 15 years. She has worked for newspapers, magazines and online publications. When she was in college, she lost a brother to cancer, and now she writes blogs for The Mesothelioma Center. Jennifer hopes that her writing brings some small amount of hope and healing to the many men and women who are forced to deal with this horrible cancer.